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Dear Zita,
I have written to you before
and I really appreciate your views towards love affairs. I hope you
can once again guide me through your brilliant idea. It is like this:
I know my good friend and I currently like the same girl. I think he
knows the same too but neither of us disagrees on it. I am thinking
of 2 possible situations here:
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1. I will not do anything and let the girl chooses...if that's the case,
then I'm afraid I'll lose to him as I'll regret myself for not doing
anything at all.
2. I tell my friend I like her and see what's his reaction. If he gives
up on her, then maybe it's the best idea. But I might lose him as a
friend.
3. I tell my friend I like her, but the girl might choose neither of
us cos she is afraid that we might hurt our friendship towards each
other as 3 of us are originally good friends.
So, now, I'm confused. I dunno what should I do. I wanna have both (love
and friendship), but I know maybe life is not possible to have it. If
so, what might be the best thing to do in this situation? Can you give
me any advice on this?
Thanks!
Michel
Dear Michel︰
我認為你應首先向你的老友講清楚，表明你對那個女孩子好認真，你會勇往直前追求她。講清楚的用意是為了維護友誼，你不會閃閃縮縮，你也無心因為一個女孩子而傷害大家的關係。
最有男子氣慨的做法莫過於此。
你的老友未必真的想追求她，可能坦白更會令他放棄追求，那樣關係便會簡化。
以後的事，當然是看那個女孩子的反應，只要你向老友預先報了案，之後你向那女孩子做任何事，你的老友也無權遷怒於你。
兩個好朋友喜歡了同一個女人，是件平凡的事，不必太傷腦筋。如果你的老友為此恨你半輩子，我會認為他是野蠻人。
深雪覆
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