朋友變戀人 – 覆KK

Hi Zita,

So many people think that long
term friends can't turn into lovers? Would you agree? I met him when
I was 13 years old, at that time, he was 16. It was such a puppy love
before for about three months. Everything was so pure and real. But
as the usual thing always happen to puppy love, things didn't work out
between us,

and especially when we were
so young, so we broke up. Thereafter, we stay as friends.

About seven years ago, I moved to another state to continue my education.
During these years, we still stay in touch and keep each other posted
with our daily lives, even love lives. We share thoughts and ideas,
we ask each other for suggestions when making important decisions. Although
there are some rough times we had been through (such as, stopped contacting
each others to avoid misunderstanding and jealousy to our lovers), we
still care for each others. Now, after 12 years since we met, we are
still close friends.

Last month, I went back home to visit my family and him. We had not
seen each others for more than two years, maybe that was the reason
why it made us feel so exciting to meet again. We had spent some quality
times together. For some reasons, our long time friends think that we
have become a couple now. I guess it is because we are both now single,
and as we grow older, we don't care much of what others say about us.
Our emotions and actions are very caring and loving, which for minutes,
we both feel like we are in love. During this whole vacation, he was
being so nice to me, which sometimes make me feel like we are lovers.
Well, when this vacation was over, I came home, and I feel like I miss
him alot. He emailed me and mentioned the same thing, too. We talk even
more on the phone lately than before.

Zita, I don't know if I am in love or not? In love with a long time
friend? That is kind of odd, don't you think? Well, I am 25 now, I still
haven't found my Mr. Right yet, do you believe he could be my Mr. Right?
He has to go to China at the end of this month to start up his own business
with friends, and he will probably be there for at least 3 months. I
know I am going to miss him alot. Right now, we can still talk on the
phone more often, since we are both in United States, although we live
at different states, the feelings is still so close. As of this point,
I am confuse. I don't know if I am really in love with him? If I am,
should I let him know? But I am afraid that would ruin our valuable
friendship. Please advise!

Thank You.


KK




Dear KK︰

很難得才會遇上人生的另一半,而你與他就像是美好的一對。你們溝通無阻,互相了解,兼且有感覺。

唯一麻煩是距離。如果你肯在他身邊生活,就可以順暢發展。你肯不肯?

倘若你也有此意,不妨向他表白你的心意,我相信以你們的根基,不會就此變作陌路人。他拒絕了你,你就再大方提出當普通朋友囉!

主動的一方,要連結局也繼續主動。你可以控制何時表白,你不可以控制是否再做回朋友。最緊要是,你不要尷尬,也不要因被拒絕而生恨。

深雪覆

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