You are a terrific love expert!
Thanks very much for solving many readers' love problems.
About myself, I separated with my ex-bf almost 2 months now and our
relationship has last for 3 years. Actually I'm quite mature enough
to face this because I really understand
that our relationship doesn't
seem like having future since both of us are not willing to sacrifice
ourselves to others at this moment. I'm 22, and he is 28. He is working
in US with a well-paid job and I am staying in Hong Kong.
The day before, I called him and would like to ask him about his life
in US. After talking about his work, hobbies, family etc. for 20 mins,
he suddenly told me that he wanted to tell me something special, and
asked me not to tell others. I said ok. And then he began to tell me
about how he met this girl at his work, how he thinks that girl is challenging...and
told me that it is very interesting to be with this girl because although
they never speak to each other that they like each other, but from the
talk that they have, they can both feel that they have special feelings
to each other.
By that time, I was so hurt. However, I kept myself in a very calm voice
and attitude and told him that please enjoy his time. He told me that
he is afraid of starting the relationship because of pressure from his
coworkers if this relationship doesn't work out at the end. I told him
not to be afraid, because real love can't be measured...
And somehow, he said I have wasted his past 3 years...and I told him
that "yeah, you're rite, that's me who has wasted your 3 years...!"
My heart was once again so hurt...deep in my heart, I was really crying.
I wanted to scream to him "hey...don't u know that I'm angry and
I'm sad? Please please don't talk to me about these anymore" and
I would like to hang up the phone. But then, I didn't do it at last.
After around 15 mins about this girl's issue, I can't give him much
response about his love matters as I'm so tired/sad to do so. He suddenly
said "ok, it is time to say good bye. Bye Bye" and hang up
the phone...what kind of person is he?
I just don't know how to face him anymore! How can I let him know that
I really don't want to listen to his love matters anymore? I can accept
the fact that he has a gf, but I cannot accept the way he treated me
as a real good friend. After all, I think he is a very selfish person.
What do you think?