Does he love me? – 覆Campbell

  1. love
  2. by she.com
  3. December 21, 2001

Hello
Zita,

It is my first time writing
you. Hope you can help me out!

I've been going out with my bf for a little more than 2 years. Me and
my bf do love each other. However, I always wanted to be with him. But
he is a very "personal" guy. He needs a lot of his personal
time and space. We see each other for most


of the weekends but we don't spend time after
work on weekdays cos he got a lot of his things to do, such as gyming,
doing sports, meeting up with his friends. But I always wanted to be him
especially I was depressed after work. However, he always tells me how
important it is for him to have his own time.

In fact, he does encourage me to find out my interests and see if I can
spend some time on it. However, I find myself happy only with him. We
did argue about it for countless times but still we can't compromise at
some point. I know he's been faithful to me and not seeing someone else.

Zita, please tell me if my bf loves
me or loves to be with me. Sometimes I do doubt about his love to me and
started asking him if he really loves me. However, he started to think
that I'm just being paranoid and annoying. Please tell me if I'm too childish.
I want to be a real grown-up woman and develop a more mature relationship.

Hope you can answer all my questions!
Thanks millions!

Cheers,


Campbell

Dear Campbell︰

有些女人的性格似男人，就如我，很獨立，需要很多私人時間，為人也自我。也是我這種女人，會很明白男人的自私自利，因為我也是如此。

的確，你的男友不是不愛你，只是他是很典型的男人，因此，他會冷落你。

你一定要改，要學習自己快樂，要不然，男人一定會嫌棄你。

你的依賴是一種負累。

女人不依賴，男人就會無安全感，太自由的女人，男人會怕。但女人太依賴，男人又會認為是包袱，遲早一日拋棄她。

你一定要改，你這種個性，以後與誰拍拖也只會不開心。

深雪覆

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