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Hi Zita,
I am being trapped in a love
affair which I'd never think I would get hurt like this in my life.
We are colleague for two yrs and finally fall in love 5 months ago.
I know he had a girlfriend already and living together as well. And
I am sure we really love each other in this moment.
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He have to take his responsibility to his girlfriend cause they have
together for a long time. He told me he can't leave her except she leave
him first. But on the other hand he always want to see me and will try
his best to spare his time with me. Near weekend... my heart will falling
deeply because he have to be with her and even can't give me a short
call or leave any simple message to me.
Just like... a good relationship,
two real heart cannot going on smoothly than normal people. What I used
to face is waiting, waiting and still waiting for anything good new
fall into my dull and lonesome day.
My friends try to convince me not to continue such relationship like
this situation... it's abnormal and I will finally get hurt and hard
to stand up and face myself again. But you know... he is not handsome
nor wealth but the real thing is we really know what is happening with
us but the one and only reason is he have a girlfriend before I met
him.
Should I continue? How can I face the disappointment when the weekend
is coming (or even he is on holiday)? How can I stop crying at night
and leave stupid message to him although I am like a fool talking to
myself? Would you recommend us to walk further?
Thanks,
Ching
Dear Ching︰
你沒有做第三者的天份，有些女人，不會為了身為第三者而哭痛，反而會慶幸自己是第三者，只因是第三者可以負少些愛情上的責任。
你明知他有女朋友，也要與他一起，這種第三者身份，真是咎由自取，你以為分享別人的男朋友不用付出的嗎？
你的狀態這樣痛苦，我建議你與他斷絕來往。如果他不捨得，你要他與女朋友分手。
你這種女人只能做大婆。何苦留在一段你永遠適應不到的感情中？
他不選擇，你就要迫他選擇。
深雪覆
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