大男人的男友 – 覆Liz

love
by she.com
February 17, 2001

Dear Zita,

I really need your help. I have a relationship with a man for 2 years. We are fine until something go wrong after the first year. We both love each other very much. Once his job now is very demanding (time), for example: working hours, 1 pm to 11 pm on Mon to Sat. And he will not change the job for the certain period.

Therefore, I only could see him once a week and we have argue more frequently. The situation is that he leave me (pass) right the way on the street while we have argument. No matter how serious of the argument, big or small, he goes straight the way without any notice. Sometimes, I do believe that this situation could be happened on "girl leaves boy", but never happen on me.

I do very confuse of what he do so. He is so mean that I sometimes cannot afford of his "big man temper" (I wish you understand the meaning). However, I forgive him for more than one time.

So, do you think this kind of relationship work? There is a little chance for him to change cus (because) he always says he needs a 'cooling-down' period and that's way he goes away. Honestly, I try to open my heart to some other guys but seems that he is the most perfect for me WHEN WE HAVE NO ARGUE.

Please reply and feel free to wirte (write) Chinese or English. Many thanks.

Best regards,

Liz

Dear Liz︰

你的男朋友愈來愈暴燥，他愈來愈想逃避，基於他實在無心無力去負擔一段不快樂的戀愛。

你也懂得說，他忙得不得了。非常忙的男人是無心力去理會愛情的。他這種男人，要的是一個笑口常開又會遷就他的女人。

你是不是這一類？

下一次，一有吵罵，你就噤聲，並且笑出來，抱住他，告訴他︰「我愛你！」，這樣，他就會收口，也會感動，不會當街掉頭走。

你要笑、要開心、要無要求，知不知道？

這是一個非常時期，最緊要你識做。

深雪覆